Amy King
Recently, I have held some FREE Webinars on the true nature of Willpower… because there is a common misconception that we feel “we just don’t have enough willpower or discipline” to do the things we need to, to make a change.
The reality is there is a lot more at play and in my continued (albeit rudimentary) research on the topic I have learnt more information around the science behind Willpower and another technique to help you wield it when needed. All of which is covered in this brief article.
So, with that said, if you feel like your life has been following the same script and nothing works out, well, you might be lacking something called “self-control”.
Self-control and willpower are two components of your psyche that are in constant dialogue.
Oftentimes, we blame ourselves for not doing the things that have to be done in order for us to achieve our goals.
For instance, that burger you ate last night contrary to your weight loss goal, felt natural and tempting…
Or maybe, you got as far as buying a gym membership, but you only attended once for a half-assed workout.
Sounds familiar?
If the answer is “Yes”, then you’re in to learn something new in this article.
Let’s talk about willpower.
Willpower and its development is without a doubt a hot topic for many people, which is why you can probably find a lot of people talking about it online.
But really, to fundamentally change how your willpower functions, you have to understand how it works on a physiological level.
If we trace the human history, we can come to find that willpower & self-control are instincts that formed throughout our evolution.
For instance, when humans were more primal, you had to somehow know that you should stay away from other people’s things, or otherwise, you might get hit in the head.
As such our species has evolved, and developed a prefrontal cortex, to help us with situations like the above. This is the part of the brain that is responsible for self-control.
Unfortunately, this part of our brain uses up a lot of energy and when you’re tired, underfed, or under-recovered, it suffers the most.
This means that you are practically off your leash in terms of self-control, if those conditions are present.
And the problem is that nowadays, we are exposed to such conditions EASILY, leading to more and more people finding less and less motivation and willpower to do the right things for themselves.
Hence, willpower is not on will-demand and like us in general needs to be replenished through periods of rest and recovery.
Understanding our stress response, may help us maximize willpower and self-control so let’s explore this in brief now.
If you know a thing or two about stress, you’d be aware that the body has a stress response in order to help us survive.
The stress response is also known as the “fight or flight (or Freeze)” response and is characterized by an increased heart rate, alertness, lowered immune function, slow digestion, high cortisol and adrenaline levels. (1)
The same response gets triggered in animals, such as when a gazelle gets attacked by a cheetah.
Contrary to the fight or flight response, the instinct of willpower kicks off another response, called the “pause and plan” response. (2)
This is basically the moment of rationalization when you’re responding to an internal conflict.
So, you see, with the stress response, you respond to a threat in the environment…
But with willpower, you realize you are your own threat.
If you trigger the pause and plan response, you have an opportunity to induce self-control. This moment will help you develop more sustainable, healthier habits, over time and overall, make the better choices in any situation.
To help you recognise when and how to activate the pause and plan response we can look to our hearts.
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Your heart rate variability (HRV) is one of the most important variables that can speak about your internal response and whether it’s a stress or self-regulation response.
Heart rate variability (HRV) is basically the variance of time between the separate beats of your heart.
When under stress, the heart rate goes up and the variations decrease, pushing the heart to work closer to its maximum capacity.
This in turn triggers the feelings of fear or anger that are relevant to the fight or flight stress response.
On the other hand, when you successfully trigger the pause and plan response, your parasympathetic nervous system takes over to induce a relaxation signal.
This makes the heart rate come down while the HRV increases and this, therefore, creates the feeling of calmness, present alertness, and focus.
Before we talk about how we trigger the pause and plan response, lets provide some additional context.
Willpower, self-control, or however you like to call it, is not just about one component of your brain, such as the prefrontal cortex.
The moments of self-regulation and willpower are the product of the work of a countless number of intricately connected neurons and systems in the body.
But we can certainly look at two specific organs that seem to govern the majority of physical and mental responses.
Those are namely the heart and the brain.
Studies find that the heart has its own “mini-brain”, which is basically a bunch of brain neuron-like cells. (3)
Did you know the heart contains ~40,000 neurons meaning it has its own nervous system?
Basically, the heart can do almost everything the brain does, independent of the brain.
And then again, these two organs are intimately connected through the neural network, constantly governing each other’s work.
Now that you’ve read the word above, you’re probably breathing consciously, but don’t worry, you’ll switch back to autopilot in a second.
However, whenever you decide to, you can take conscious control over your breath.
Even at moments when willpower needs to come into play, you can use breathing to induce powerful self-regulation.
The majority of our responses and thoughts are a repeating pattern so when we are attempting to change a habit… you have the willpower to change it.. (providing your willpower battery is recharged!)
Here’s something you can do during moments when you need willpower/self-regulation:
Though you may think “Hell, what will breathing do?”, this sends a powerful relaxation signal to the brain and the heart.
Each breath takes you further and further from the stress response, thus opening the doors for a brief moment of pause and plan, that will improve your thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions, and therefore, end results.
Willpower and self-control are instincts that have allowed us to survive, thrive, and evolve.
Much like the stress response, the willpower response doesn’t get triggered as it used to during the times of our ancestors.
Nevertheless, it remains a functional part of people’s character and is something that can be worked on.
It is just a matter of YOU taking conscious control over your own actions, thoughts, and feelings.
Remember, you are the master of your body and mind, you are capable of powerful, internal self-regulation.
If you would like to learn more about how to make willpower and discipline work for you.
Amy King is the founder of AKE Fitness & Nutrition. When she’s not serving her clients, she is pursuing her corporate career in mining, bodybuilding and spending time with loved ones. She calls Perth, Western Australia home.
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